By Carole Martin

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You didn’t get chosen – move on – this wasn’t the place for you

Carole Martin – www.interviewcoach.com
If you’ve watched “The Bachelor” show on TV you know it’s a sleazy reality show that draws a huge crowd of viewers.

It is also the “ultimate” when it comes to the candidates making themselves stand out from the others. The show starts with thirty or so men or women, and week-by-week one or more are eliminated by the “Bachelor or Bachelorette.”

It is a tough competition and unless they have made themselves “rememberable” they will not make the cut. When all is said and done, only one candidate will be chosen.
What happens to all the other candidates? Even though they are heart-broken when they are rejected, they move on and find other people.

So what does this have to do with the job interview? Basically it’s the same scenario – a pool of candidates is chosen and these candidates all strive to make themselves stand out from the other contenders and one-by-one they are eliminated until one person is chosen and a job offer is made. What happens to the other candidates? They move on and continue to interview to find other jobs.

Not every date will end in a commitment or even a second date. Not every interview will end in a job offer. Sometimes it just doesn’t work – for whatever reason. Let go and move forward. There will be other dates and other interviews – life will go on.

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~Dalai Lamma (2008)